Have you ever hurt people your partner cares about as a way of hurting her, or damaged things of importance to her? If yes, did this happen once, a few times or many times?
How often have you caused harm to things or people that are important to your partner, as a way to hurt her?
How often have you done things to frighten or intimidate your partner, for example, by looking at her a certain way, yelling at her, or throwing things?
Have you ever done things to scare or intimidate a wife/partner on purpose for example by the way you looked at her, by yelling and smashing things?