How many times has your spouse ever done things to scare or intimidate you on purpose for example by the way he looked at you, or by yelling and smashing things?
Have you done things to scare or intimidate your spouse on purpose for example by the way you looked at her, by yelling and smashing things in the last twelve months?
Have you hurt people your spouse cares about as a way of hurting her, or damaged things of importance to her in the last twelve months?
Have you insulted your spouse or deliberately made her feel bad about herself in the last twelve months?